Never Enough--Perfectionism

Do you ever feel like no matter how much you do, it still isn’t enough? Like you’re trying to be a good mom, partner, friend — maybe even trying to take care of yourself — and still feel like you’re falling short?

In this episode of More Than Mom with Dr. Nichelle Haynes, Dr. Haynes, perinatal psychiatrist and mother, explores the role of perfectionism in motherhood — how it hides behind productivity, high standards, and guilt, and how it quietly disconnects us from ourselves.

We talk about:

• The psychological roots of perfectionism
• How perfectionism shows up in motherhood (and why it’s often mistaken for “doing it all”)
• The emotional cost of over-functioning, self-criticism, and tying your worth to performance
• Why modeling imperfection is a gift to your children
• The link between burnout, resentment, and trying to be "the perfect mom"
• How to begin letting go — gently, imperfectly, and with self-compassion

You’ll also hear a personal reflection from Dr. Haynes on the irony of recording this episode while recovering from illness — a real-time invitation to show up, even when things aren’t polished.

This episode ends with a simple but powerful journal prompt to help you name the unrealistic standards you’re carrying — and where they came from.

Because your worth is not in your perfection. It’s in your presence.

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