#146 | Judgment Divides, Discernment Liberates: The Real Allyship Test

Are you reacting, or are you responding with wisdom? What if the difference between judgment and discernment could change everything from your relationships to your politics?

In this deep-dive episode, Heather explores the often-misunderstood distinction between judgment and discernment - why one fuels division and defensiveness, while the other opens the door to compassion, clarity, and courageous action. If you're navigating our complex world as an ally, a parent, or simply a human trying to do better, this conversation is for you.

• Understand the psychological and philosophical roots of judgment and discernment, and how they shape your thinking
• Learn how discernment strengthens allyship and relationships with examples from LGBTQ+ advocacy and real-world conflicts
• Discover practical tools like metacognition, mindfulness, and curiosity to replace reactive judgment with informed clarity

Press play now to learn how to shift from subconscious judgment to conscious discernment and become a wiser, more effective ally, advocate, and human in the process.

Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!

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At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and foster courageous, compassionate connection.

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More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen explores connection, courage, and community for every concerned parent, mom, or ally navigating fear, grief, and bigotry with hope, resilience, and empathy. Through open-minded education, inclusive parenting guidance, and advocacy for mental health, safety, and a human first approach, we support LGBTQ youth and stand for human rights and social justice. More Human. More Kind. empowers listeners to shift their mindset, embrace activism and allyship, and lead with kindness, healing, and purpose.