EP6 - If you lost everything tomorrow who would you be

EP6 - If you lost everything tomorrow who would you be?

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[00:00:00] Hello, and welcome to another episode of moments of wisdom with Brett Williams. So in today's episode, I dive into what I have termed as your true trait. And it's really a different perspective on asking yourself the question, who am I? And ultimately, the reason why we want to know what our true traits are, is so that you can be confident and comfortable and centered.

[00:00:20] Within any given moment and ultimately not having your, your worth or anything like that on external things. Because the big question there is what if things were left or what if everything disappeared tomorrow? Who are you? And so knowing your true traits is a really, really powerful thing. So sit back, relax and enjoy.

[00:00:40] If everything was taken away from you tomorrow. Who would you be? That is a really challenging and big question for most people. And it comes back to probably feeling lost, really, really questioning it, maybe falling down a, a dark deep rabbit hole of a dark depressive emotions. And until you find yourself at a rock bottom place where it's almost as though.

[00:01:06] Uh, I'm not going to continue down this path. And then ultimately you just start swinging out a desperation for trying anything and giving them whatever there is showing up a go in. You know, today, my focus here is to talk about something that I've termed as your true traits, as a way to be able to give you more confidence and satisfaction within the moment, and being able to be a happier, more confident.

[00:01:31] And ultimately if everything was to disappear tomorrow, that ultimately you're okay. And that's, and that's really the big part of it because, uh, in the Path 2 BE ME Program and the, BE The Man Program, which is the men's and women's, relationship trauma, healing programs that I work and I run. The first lesson in there is really around who are you.

[00:01:56] But as I say today, I'm going to dive straight into some of the guts of that and talk about the true traits, which is at the core of that question. Who are you? And the reason why it's at the core is because when you're starting to look at that question of who are you, and you can find that at times you start to look at who you believe society thinks you are, and, and really looking at it from the perspective of kind of, you know, I'm a mom.

[00:02:20] I'm a dad. I'm a, whatever your career is. I'm a brother. I'm a sister. And they're all aspects of you, but at the end of the day, they're not actually who you are. And so this idea of true traits really comes back to being able to empower you in the moment and no matter what's going on, it doesn't matter how much money's in your bank account.

[00:02:38] It doesn't matter how many likes you've got on Instagram or social media or. Any platform. Um, you know, it doesn't matter about any of those things because at the end of the day, it's your core, it's your true trades, you know exactly who you are. And, you know, examples of these true traits can be you're somebody who is kind your caring, your resilient, your able to figure something out.

[00:03:01] Like these are things that come with life, lessons and experience, but also at the same time, sometimes they are who you are at your core. And obviously that's where the core traits. The true traits come from, but some of these can be learned as well. Like, I'll give you an example. When I was younger, I used to work security at a number of nightclubs here in Perth and, uh, I was the head Dorman.

[00:03:21] So yeah, ultimately it was my responsibility that, you know, any decisions, it kind of fell on my shoulders and at times, yeah, I'd have comments from some of the other gods of Brett you're too nice. You're too soft. You too, this and. The thing was I tried being an also I tried being a very different person and yeah, it might've got me some instant gratification in that moment, but at the end of the day, it only lasted for a couple of days or even that night.

[00:03:46] And then all of a sudden I'm back to being the kind caring person that I actually am. And so for me, identifying that as one of my true traits is really empowering because all of a sudden, instead of trying to say that there's something wrong with that. Yeah, many, many years ago, I think it was about probably maybe six or seven years ago.

[00:04:04] I actually looked at that and I was like, okay, so I'm going to turn everything that everybody tells me as a weakness into my strengths, because I started to actually own my traits. And from there, I've started to gather more evidence for others, things which are, you know, stacking upon my true traits, which as I say, you know, some of the examples before, like resilience, like, are you somebody who gets.

[00:04:25] Back up. Okay. It might not be as elegant as what you want it to be, or, you know, you might not be as effortless as you want it to be or whatever it is. Yes. But at the end of the day, are you somebody who gets back up and if so, well, and that's one of your true traits as well. And are you somebody who is kind caring and compassionate to those around you?

[00:04:42] Are you somebody who is a good listener? All of these things, I things and aspects of yourself and your identity that no one and no thing can take away from you. So going back to the original question at the start of this episode, you know, if everything was taken away from you tomorrow, who are you? Well, now you've got the idea and you've got the, uh, Awareness of true traits.

[00:05:06] Like you already know who you are. Okay. So you that identity in the social aspect of all the social app identity of the career that you had, or the money in the bank account and the social status and all that sort of stuff may be taken away. So all of a sudden, you're not that anymore. They're not aspects of you, but at the core.

[00:05:26] All of the lessons that you learned in order to be in that space and to get to that space and to obtain all of the things that you had. Those are true traits that are still there because maybe it could be the ability to be able to, uh, organize an event, you know, or maybe you're somebody who walks into a room and just has that energy that really shifts and transforms the room and all of that side of things.

[00:05:48] And so, you know, these are things that too often, what I found is. Our true traits are the things that we downplay the most. And we downplay them the most because we feel as though they just come to us too naturally. And so what I invite you to do, and I invite you to look into it and really own it is the fact of just embracing these and embracing these as skills that you can and tools that you can use at your ability to be able to craft your own reality.

[00:06:18] And I know there has been challenging times that I've been through and I've really like, I mean, I really had to lean on my true traits to remind myself who I was in. Some of those docs was that I was in and it was only knowing those and reconnecting to the rhythm. And maybe sometimes it was a case of grabbing my journal out and just writing.

[00:06:37] Yeah. And, and going, you know, Brett, who are you? What do you bring to the table? Oh, you bring this, you bring that, you bring this, you bring that. And it's like, Oh wow. You know, actually I am. Somebody of value and I am somebody who is valuable. And so being able to reposition and refocus your mind too, I really know who you are at your core is something that will be profoundly empowering for yourself, so that you're ultimately, you know, the best version of yourself in every given moment.

[00:07:05] And. And obviously you can also check in and reign yourself in. If you feel as though you're not actually being your best self in that moment as well. And so I really invite you to have a look into your world and really start to understand, like, what are your true traits? And instead of asking, as I said at the start, instead of asking that question, who are you.

[00:07:25] It's more of a case of like, who are you? Like, what are your true traits? Like who are you at your core, not a case of who are you in this world of social standings and possessions and all of that sort of thing, because that's going to draw blanks every single time. And all of a sudden you're putting the power on things that are external, that ultimately if they disappeared tomorrow, You'd be emotionally screwed and probably mentally screwed as well, because all of a sudden now you're feeling lost, confused, really have no direction and guidance because you're just totally confused.

[00:07:55] And so come back to your true traits, understand what they are for yourself. And it doesn't have to be, you know, it doesn't have to be an 84 book full of them, you know, just three, four, five, or even just one or two, like something that is going to give you enough evidence to be able to remind yourself.

[00:08:12] That you are capable of doing something. And one of the cool basis, uh, true traits that I referenced is the idea of being able to communicate. Now, hindsight for yourself might be coming up and going. Yeah, Brett, but I had this awkward conversation the other day. I stumbled over my words. I felt like an idiot, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, all of this.

[00:08:32] And at the end of the day, that's not the question. The question is, can you. Communicate, can you hold a sentence and kit? What can you construct a sentence? You know, can you convey your ideas? And can you reply to somebody when they construct a sentence? And when they ask a question or they make a comment, the answer is yes.

[00:08:53] Sometimes it's not as elegant as you want it to be, but ultimately the answer is yes. So really being able to own that space as well. Again, we'll give you that more. Confident and grounded centered strength. When you actually stepping into a situation that you may be otherwise fearful of when it comes to a calm conversation with, you know, even right now, it could be conversation with banks.

[00:09:15] It could be a conversation with relationships. It could be conversations with employees or bosses, you know, whatever. There could potentially be a lot of hard conversations going on at the moment. And instead of getting in your head about the fear of the conversation instead, come back to that true core trait of yours that you know, that you can communicate and embracing the fact that sometimes it's a little bit messy and that's okay, but ultimately you can.

[00:09:41] And that's where you'll start to find that strength. And ultimately, as I said, when it comes to, if everything was taken away from you tomorrow, you still have yourself. And by having yourself, it means you can rebuild. It means you can build bigger and ultimately you can have that control within your life to be able to create the results that you want.

[00:10:01] And that is really, you know, the big thing that you wanting to be able to do, because if you're listening to this, then the chances are, you've seen some of my other content, you know, who I'm about, or at least a little bit about. And if not, if it's the first time you're tuning in. Then thank you. I really appreciate it.

[00:10:17] My focus here is to inspire you, to give you a new perspective on something that you may have already considered, or maybe not even considered as well. And so make sure you check out the other episodes as well. That being said, thank you so much for tuning in, and I will speak to you soon.