Relentless - Tim Grover pt2

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Chapter 6 - A Trip to the Darkside

- A cooler tries to fight his dark side and loses
- A closer can’t control his dark side
- A cleaner harnesses his darkside into raw controlled power
- Your darkside is who you really are, where you drop all of your inhibitions and are just left with actions & results
- Everyone has a dark side, your secrets & desires. All the stuff you don’t want anybody to know about
- As kids, we were all taught to stop these desires and instincts, but to be relentless adults, we need to learn how to control this darkness
- It’s not about taking stupid risks
- The most important thing is that you are the one in control of your impulses, not vice versa.
- Both champions, CEO’s and crime bosses share the same relentless attitude to win at all costs.
- You do what you have to do, so that you can do what you want to do
- A cleaner’s darkside isn’t his weakness, it’s part of who he is. It’s about breaking the rules that you don’t agree with in order to get what you want, this spills out to all aspects of your life

Chapter 7 - The only pressure a cleaner feels is that he puts on himself

- A cooler bucklers under pressure
- A closer will be clutch in a pressure situation.
- A cleaner is always clutch
- There is no such thing as a ‘clutch gene’. It's simply preparation plus opportunity and results in a predatory instinct
- A true competitor always has pressure to thrive. Being relentless is about every minute.
- The reason people don’t want to make the shot in a game winning moment, isn’t that they’ll miss, it’s that they’ll have to keep making it in the future
- For a cleaner, relaxing is something weaker people do because they can’t handle the pressure
- Don't run away from stress, run towards it - you can't succeed without it. Your success depends on how you manage and handle stress
- A closer lets external pressure affect how he thinks and plans his strategy.
- A cleaner doesn’t respond to external pressure, by refusing to acknowledge.
- A cleaner doesn’t compete with others, because they put the most pressure on themselves
- Embrace pressure, because it is a challenge that will define you. It will show you just how much you’re capable of
- Use pressure to work hard, work through the discomfort - you’ll be stronger afterwards

Chapter 8 - Go get dirty

- In times of emergency, everyone looks for the cleaner.
- A cooler waits for the plan.
- A closer studies the plan and knows exactly what to do
- A cleaner, doesn’t need a plan, he already knows every possible outcome and action he needs to take to fix the situation
- Confidence means recognizing something isn't working and having humility to know it's not, as well as the knowledge and ability to change the plan to make it start working.
- Cockiness is not acknowledging anything is wrong
- A cooler doesn’t take risks. A closer only takes risks when he knows the consequences of failing are minimal
- A cleaner doesn’t feel risk, whatever happens he knows what to do
- Few people have the ability to adapt and overcome on the fly.
- You have to be willing to fail in order to build the confidence of trying and trying again. Just because you’ve trained to the Nth degree, won’t mean your instincts won’t always be right, but that doesn’t mean you should be too timid to snap into action.
- A cleaner feels no pressure when he makes a mistake and has no issue with admitting he’s wrong and shouldering the blame - extreme ownership
- A cooler will give a lot of excuses and no solutions
- A closer will find someone else to blame
- You can’t fix something, unless you first admit it and it’s a great first step in removing the pressure made from the mistake. Once you’ve admitted it, all you have to focus on is to fix it

Chapter 9 - When you’re a cleaner, you don’t compete with anyone, you find your opponent’s weakness and attack

- A cooler does a good job and waits for a pat on the back
- A closer(continued)