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Ep 18 | The Gap Between Expectation & Reality

Author
Carla Mardell
Published
Wed 13 Aug 2025
Episode Link
https://mindsetinmayhem.substack.com/p/ep-18-repeating-this-shouldnt-be

There’s a Byron Katie quote I love: “When you argue with reality, you lose - only 100% of the time.”And it’s true every single time.But here’s what most people miss: the argument with reality isn’t just out loud, it’s in your head.

Every time you think, “This should’ve gone differently” or “They shouldn’t do this,” you’re in that invisible tug-of-war with what is not. And the currency you pay in? Emotion and energy.

There is no bigger time suck!

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

* Why every negative emotion comes from the gap between expectation and reality

* How invisible rules and “should” thinking create unnecessary suffering

* The sneaky ways we buffer and run from emotions and why it never works

* The 4 choices you always have when reality doesn’t match your expectations

* In this episode, I’ll show you why emotions aren’t the enemy—they’re indicators. You’ll learn how to stop arguing with reality and start reclaiming energy and peace through awareness, compassion, and practical tools you can use right now.

This isn’t about giving up or settling. It’s about stepping into agency and using your incredible creative mind to make deliberate choices, so you can stop leaking energy into arguments you can’t win.

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