Stop Abandoning Yourself: Sacred Self-Love, Boundaries, and Healing with Nikki Allen

In this powerful episode of Mind Over Matter, we sit down with author and spiritualist Nikki Allen to talk about the raw, unfiltered journey of choosing yourself — especially when it's the hardest thing to do. Nikki opens up about her book Loved You, Hated You and how years of heartbreak, childhood trauma, and toxic patterns led her to a radical act of self-love. From setting boundaries with loved ones to discovering joy through gratitude, Nikki shares what it truly means to let go, heal, and stop apologizing for your truth.

This is an honest conversation about trauma, transformation, and walking away — not out of bitterness, but to reclaim peace. If you’ve ever felt torn between staying connected and staying whole, this episode will speak directly to your soul.

ABOUT THE GUEST

Nikki Allen is a writer, spiritualist, and fierce truth-teller whose work explores healing, self-love, shadow work, and reclaiming power. She is the author of Loved You, Hated You and a guide for those ready to stop self-abandonment and start living unapologetically.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

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  Self-love isn’t a trend — it’s a sacred act of survival. Nikki shares how choosing herself after repeated heartbreak became a turning point in her life.

  
  


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  True healing begins when we stop bypassing our trauma. Nikki’s deep dive into her childhood trauma helped her understand the roots of unhealthy patterns.

  
  


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  Setting boundaries — even with family — is necessary for peace. Nikki’s experience with her adult daughter shows how tough but essential this work is.

  
  


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  Laughter, ritual, and daily grounding practices (like walking to the ocean or ambient music) can keep us steady during emotional storms.

  
  


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  Shadow work isn’t darkness—it’s clarity. Nikki uses AI as a mirror to identify and integrate her inner child, transforming past pain into strength.

  
  


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  You don’t need a perfect plan to reclaim yourself. Begin with just 5 minutes a day toward your healing or goal.

  
  

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Website: https://www.nikkiallen.com

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