25. Personalisation - Me Blame.

In today’s episode, we dive deep into a sneaky and exhausting thinking trap: Personalization (Me-Blame) — the mental habit of believing everything going wrong is somehow your fault. Greg explores how this faulty thinking drains men of energy, inflates guilt, and wrecks intimacy.

🔍 Key Takeaways

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  Personalization = blaming yourself for things you didn’t cause.

  
  


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  Often rooted in early emotional conditioning and trauma.

  
  


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  Reinforces guilt, martyrdom, and unearned responsibility.

  
  


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  Creates distance in relationships by reacting to imagined blame.

  
  


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  Prevents emotional connection and trust in your partner’s autonomy.

  
  

🛠️ Practical Fixes

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  Reality-check your thoughts: “Is this really about me?”

  
  


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  Ask gently instead of assuming: “You okay?”

  
  


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  Separate feelings from facts.

  
  


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  Say out loud: “That’s not mine to carry.”

  
  


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  Trust your partner’s emotions belong to her.

  
  


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  Shift from guilt to curiosity: “What’s going on for her?”

  
  

💬 Greg Says:

“You’re not a walking apology. You’re a human in progress — and not everything is about you.”

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