129. Perfectionism and black & white thinking in relationships

Does your brain have a very all-or-nothing way of looking at yourself and your relationships?

You either did it perfectly or you're terrible.

You're a good friend or a bad friend.

Your partner either says the exact right thing or they must not care about you at all.

If so - you're not alone!

Our brains are actually predisposed to be very black & white in the way they think - preferring things to fit neatly into set categories - leaving very little room for nuance or shades of grey.

In today's episode I'm covering:

• A recent example of my own perfectionist brain
• How black & white thinking impacts our relationship with ourselves
• How it impacts our relationships with others
• How it can mess with our expectations and overall enjoyment of a relationship
• And some easy thought work hacks to take your brain to a more nuanced place!

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