“Say ‘I Do’… to Multiple People?! The Controversial Truth About One Marriage, Many Vows

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Is this the most misunderstood marriage idea of the year? On our 100th episode, we argue that a **healthy marriage requires saying “I do” to multiple people** not other partners, but every new version of your spouse as they grow, change, fail, heal, and mature.
No, this isn’t poly, swinging, or sister-wives. It’s the bold, biblical, and practical commitment to re-choose each other across seasons, career shifts, kids, body changes, crises, and midlife rewrites.

We tackle:

• Why “find the one” is less powerful than becoming the one for your spouse
• The annual State of the Union weekend (yes, including great sex) that keeps you synced
• How curiosity beats control: questions that reignite desire and direction
• The roommate trap after the kids leave and how to never end up there
• A spicy take on intimacy after 40: why it gets better when you grow together

Trigger Warning (for the algorithm and the comments): If you think your spouse should stay who they were on your wedding day… you’re going to hate this one.

Listen, then tell us: How many times have you said “I do” to the new version of your spouse?

“Is it betrayal to miss an old version of your spouse or honesty that can help you reconnect?”

“What’s one way your spouse has changed that you never expected… and how did you adapt?”

“Should couples schedule an annual ‘State of the Union’ or is that too clinical for romance?”

“Hot take: If you won’t re-choose your spouse’s current self, are you actually married to a memory?”

00:00 Cold open: “Is marriage overrated?”
04:50 Why “multiple marriages” (to the same person)
10:30 The curiosity script: questions that re-ignite connection
22:10 The annual State of the Union (and why great sex belongs there)
26:30 Roommates after kids, how to avoid it
30:45 Intimacy after 40: better than the myths
33:40 Roadblocks: nostalgia, control, unrealistic expectations
37:10 Final challenge + prayer

All your family’s pressing concerns and questions, answered in one place. Mike...

Listen on: Apple Podcasts   Spotify

Listen on: Apple Podcasts   Spotify