Marriage Lab

Can you tell the difference between when your emotions are hijacking you & when they're helping you? 

Noticing and expressing our emotions is a good thing. In fact, it’s vital for a healthy marriage. …

In this episode of Marriage Lab, Erin and Jenna dive into the do’s and don’ts of processing with your spouse—how to share what’s on your heart in a way that invites care instead of conflict. From eve…

Think you’ve forgiven… but still feel stuck? You’re not alone.
Most of us were never taught what real forgiveness looks like—just the performance of it.
Say a prayer. Say the words. Move on.
Except… w…

Some pain cuts deeper than others—not because it hurts more, but because it feels true. In this episode, we unpack the kind of pain that doesn’t just bruise your feelings, it hits your identity.

We ex…

Offense Isn’t Just Pain: It’s Pain + Pride

We often think being offended is just another form of hurt—but it’s more than that. Offense is what happens when pain gets tangled with pride. It’s the mome…

What if evangelism wasn’t about striving—but about overflow?

In this special episode, I sit down with a few of my friends fresh off a missions trip to unpack what actually cracked the code for us when…

What if the “peace” you’re protecting in your marriage… is actually costing you real connection?

In this episode, we’re unpacking how passivity can disguise itself as love—especially in Christian marr…

What do you get when you mix a paddleboard, high expectations, and two humans with emotions?
Definitely not the relaxing date we envisioned. But maybe... a deeper kind of win?

This was not our best dat…

In this episode, we’re tackling a subtle but serious issue in marriage: isolation.

What happens when your spouse becomes your only source of connection?
Spoiler: it doesn’t lead to thriving.

We talk ab…

🎉 It’s our 16th anniversary, and apparently our marriage is now old enough to get its driver’s license. 😅

But let’s be real—
 Even after 16 years, date night convo doesn’t always flow naturally (especi…

Not all breakthroughs come in a flash. In this episode, we talk about the kind of transformation that happens slowly—over months or even years. The kind you don’t always see until you look back and r…

In this episode, we talk about the often-overlooked rhythm of re-entry—what it looks like when one spouse returns from a trip and the home dynamic shifts again. 

We share how we’ve learned to treat th…

Birthdays—love them or dread them, they can be a surprisingly tense topic in marriage. 🎂 From unspoken expectations to last-minute letdowns, these special days often carry more emotional weight than …

In this episode, we’re tackling the hidden ways we sabotage our own connection in marriage—especially when we expect our spouse to read our minds. No matter what it is, waiting for them to magically …

In this episode, we talk about our respective styles of processing how we are feeling. Aaron is an external processor, needing to externalize what's he's feeling in order to understand it. Jenna is a…

In this episode, we continue our conversation about changing how we show up in conflict by focusing on the choice we have in how we respond to our spouse’s pain. When your spouse shares hurt, are you…

Most people use Courtroom tactic when in conflict in their marriage or in other relationships. 
In this episode we unpack why this strategy is ineffective for real transformation. We get stuck "lawyer…

This episode is the third in a series on being triggered. So what do we do when our spouse is triggered? Well, we certainly don't tell them they're triggered. That never helps. Instead we get to offe…

Following up the last episode titled, "The Science of 'Triggered'", we talk about what the four most common triggered responses are (Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn), what they look like in action and u…

"Triggered" has become a buzzword in our culture in recent and it's been commonly used to describe an experience for which someone else is responsible and therefore someone else's responsibility to m…