Parenting the kids we have

I want to ask you a question, and I would like for you to answer it to yourself and really think about it. When you became a parent, did you have an idea of what you wanted your kids to be like. What they would like, how they would be, what you would do.

I think most of us have some kind of fantasy or dream about who our kids are and who we are as parents and I think the relationship we have with our kids depends a lot on how flexible that idea of a person is.