66: "We Never Fight"-The Bright Side… and the Dark Side Too

Author: Ellen Dorian
Published: Thu 11 Sep 2025
Episode Link: https://makemorelove.show

Ellen Dorian explores the concept of "never fighting" in relationships, discussing various reasons why couples might claim they don't fight and the potential implications for their relationship health.

Part 1: Reasons for "Never Fighting"

- Disengagement and avoidance

- Temperament and perceptions

- Philosophy and healthy skills

Part 2: Analyzing "Never Fighting" in Relationships

- Looking beneath the surface

- Attacking the problem, not each other

- Practicing conflict resolution on small issues

Part 3: The Importance of Healthy Conflict

- Distinguishing between harmful avoidance and genuine compatibility

- Building intimacy through constructive disagreement

- Developing skills for incremental problem-solving

Key Takeaways:

- "Never fighting" can indicate various relationship dynamics, both positive and negative

- Healthy relationships often involve constructive conflict resolution

- Incremental problem-solving can prevent major conflicts

Call to Action:

Take the Make More Love Relationship Dynamics Quiz for personalized insights into your relationship dynamics.

Closing Thoughts:

The absence of fighting doesn't necessarily indicate a healthy relationship. It's crucial to understand the underlying reasons and develop healthy conflict resolution skills.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.