62: Dessert First-How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

Author: Ellen Dorian
Published: Thu 07 Aug 2025
Episode Link: https://makemorelove.show

Ellen Dorian discusses the importance of enjoying time with your partner and offers strategies to bring fun and playfulness back into relationships, especially for busy professionals.

Part 1: Rediscovering Joy in Relationships

- Ellen emphasizes the significance of simply enjoying being together

- Introduces the concept of "affinity" from her relationship hierarchy of needs

- Encourages listeners to reflect on their favorite activities with their partner

- Addresses the challenge of relationships on autopilot due to busy lifestyles

Part 2: Strategies for Rekindling Fun

- Suggests recreating childhood summer memories as a date idea

- Shares personal examples of fun childhood activities

- Recommends asking partners about their favorite childhood memories

- Introduces the concept of "bids for connection" and their importance

Part 3: Overcoming Relationship Challenges

- Addresses concerns for relationships in serious trouble

- Introduces the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz

- Explains how to use childhood favorites as "bids for connection"

- Emphasizes the power of small, consistent gestures in building strong relationships

Key Takeaways:

- Prioritize pleasure and enjoyment in your relationship

- Use childhood memories to create fun, playful experiences with your partner

- Small, consistent gestures are more effective than grand, infrequent gestures

- Taking initiative to improve your relationship can lead to positive changes

Call to Action:

Take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz at makemoreloveShowQuiz.com and schedule a free one-on-one call with Ellen to review your results and create an action plan.

Closing Thoughts:

Relationships require active effort to maintain and improve. Incorporating playfulness and fun can reignite the enjoyment that brought you together initially.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.