34: How to Handle When Things Go South

Author: Ellen Dorian
Published: Thu 12 Dec 2024
Episode Link: https://makemorelove.show

[In this off-the-cuff episode, Ellen Dorian shares candid thoughts on handling frustrations and setbacks when things don’t go as planned. Using her own tech issues as an example, Ellen explores how to manage stress and prevent it from negatively impacting your relationships. She dives into three common problems and offers five actionable principles for maintaining emotional control and resilience during challenging times.

Part 1: Understanding the Impact of Frustration

How work frustrations can spill over into your relationship, even when your partner isn’t involved.
The importance of recognizing how stress affects your behavior and the energy you bring home.

Part 2: Identifying Common Challenges

Losing perspective under stress and why small glitches can feel enormous.
Neglecting self-care and how it creates a vicious cycle, making stress harder to handle.

Part 3: Five Principles for Managing Frustration

Pause Before Reacting – Take a deep breath and respond intentionally instead of emotionally.
Name It to Tame It – Identify and articulate what you’re feeling to regain control.
Communicate Constructively – Share your frustrations with your partner in a way that fosters understanding, not conflict.
Prioritize Self-Care – Small, intentional actions can build resilience and restore your emotional balance.
Engage the Gratitude Factor – Reflect on what’s going well to reframe your mindset and counter negativity.

Key Takeaways:

Frustrations are inevitable, but they don’t have to damage your relationship.
Emotional control during challenging times is a cornerstone of living an honorable life.
Practicing self-care and gratitude can help you manage stress and show up as your best self.

Call to Action:

Ellen shares her personal commitment to these principles and encourages listeners to take a proactive approach to maintaining balance in their lives. Whether it’s a deep breath, a moment of gratitude, or reaching out for support, small steps can make a big difference in preserving both your peace of mind and the strength of your relationships.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen reflects on the importance of handling frustrations with intention, especially when life doesn’t go as planned. She emphasizes that these moments, though temporary, can leave lasting impacts if we let them spill over into our relationships. By practicing emotional control, prioritizing self-care, and staying mindful of how stress affects those around us, we can navigate challenges more gracefully.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.