Romantic Attraction and Sanctification: How Your Sins and Good Works Shape Feelings, Desires, and Affections in Your Love Life

In this episode, we discuss how obedience to God’s Word increases attraction toward the right people while diminishing attraction for those who are not right for us. We also explore how sin and disobedience can misguide our affections, leading our hearts astray.

(00:18) How Your Sanctification Will Increase Proper Attraction or Kill Improper Attraction

(01:58) Why Laziness and Lack of Mission Misplace and Misguide Your Attractions

(03:31) How Honoring Your Parents Redirects and Shapes Your Attractions

(04:45) How Pursuing Godliness Refines Your Romantic Desires

(06:10) How the Idolatry of People, Romance, and Being “In Love” Destroys Healthy Attraction

(08:53) Fear and Worry: How Unnecessarily Keeping Your Guards Up Stunts Your Love Life

(09:21) How Discernment and Wisdom Protect Your Heart from the Wrong Spouse

(09:59) Eavesdropping and Covetous Comparison: The Silent Killers of Love

(10:37) Pessimism and Ungratefulness: The Subtle Poison That Destroys Healthy Love

(11:17) Anger and Attraction: How Your Temper Can Harm Love

(12:09) How Submission to Your Husband Strengthens Attraction and Deepens Affection

(13:40) Loving Christ First: How It Transforms Your Romantic Heart

(15:00) How Sexual Sin and Sinful Arousal Significantly Distort Your Romantic Desires

(19:24) Why True Desire Grows Through Purity, Not Immodesty and Sexual Temptation

(20:22) How Sin Makes You Less Attractive

(21:17) Beauty Redefined: Christlikeness as the Ultimate Attraction

(21:57) Song of Songs: The Secret to Lasting Attraction? Godliness

(24:20) Why Chasing Attraction Should Never Be Your First Priority