Say What You Mean or Prepare to Be Misunderstood

If you think love should feel natural, intuitive, or just “click,” you might be setting yourself up for confusion, resentment, and unmet needs.

In this episode, licensed therapist and confidence coach Talia Bombola gets real about how communication—or the lack of it—is sabotaging modern relationships. She breaks down why so many ambitious women end up carrying the emotional weight in partnerships, what anxious and avoidant attachment really look like in practice, and why clarity is a love language.

We unpack the myth of emotional mind reading, the pressure to shrink in dating, and how performance-based connection keeps us from being known. Whether you're tired of breadcrumbing, over-functioning, or just not getting what you need, this episode offers both clarity and strategy.

You’ll learn:

• How vague communication creates chronic resentment

• Why anxious-avoidant dynamics are magnetic but unsustainable

• What “saying what you mean” looks like in practice

• The difference between emotional availability and emotional consistency

• How to stop dating with your potential and start dating with your actual self

Talia Bombola is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Psychodynamic Psychotherapist, and the Confidence + Assertiveness Specialist™. She helps ambitious, self-aware women stop performing in relationships and start showing up with clarity, self-trust, and emotional power.

Talia’s work bridges evolutionary psychology, attachment theory, and subconscious rewiring. Her no-fluff approach helps clients unlearn the patterns of “too much” and “not enough” that sabotage both connection and career. She’s known for taking clients to the emotional deep end—not with overwhelm, but with insight that sticks.

With over 16 years of personal and professional development, Talia offers more than credentials. She’s lived this work. Her coaching and clinical background help clients understand why they feel the way they do, what to do about it, and how to build relationships that match their emotional depth and ambition.

In sessions, on stage, or behind the mic, Talia challenges the belief that love is intuitive and teaches that emotional fluency—not emotional performance—is the real flex.

Guest Bio: Talia Bombola, LMFT
Links: @taliabombola