Love Gate 40: The Love You Have to Earn

Have you ever found yourself saying—or feeling—"Look at everything I'm doing for you... don't you appreciate me?"

In this deeply personal episode, Joan shares intimately about Gate 40 — the Gate of Aloneness, Delivering, and Earning Love.

This is the energy that says: "I'm doing this all for you, so you'd better love me."

Joan reveals her lived experience with the exhausting Gate 40, and how she transformed from someone who earned love through sacrifice into someone who serves from genuine love.

She explores the difference between being a resentful "mule" versus a joyful provider, and why the ego only knows it's in love when it's working for somebody.

If you've ever felt like you carry everyone else's load while keeping score of what you deserve in return, this episode will be both mirror and medicine.

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WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why Gate 40 creates the "I do everything for everyone" pattern
- The difference between service that earns love vs. service that flows from love
- How ego love operates differently from all other types of love
- Why some people are natural providers and how to do it without resentment
- How to shift from keeping score to serving freely

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"The ego only knows it's in love when it's working for somebody."

"When love becomes transactional, it's no longer love. It's a business arrangement. And business arrangements breed resentment."

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CONNECT WITH JOAN:

📸 Instagram: @joan_nwosu
🌐 Website: joannwosu.com
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Your service is a gift, not a transaction.Your provision is joy, not burden.You are worthy of love before you do anything to earn it.