207. Unlearning the Guilt and Shame Response: Why You Overgive

Guilt and shame: the uninvited passengers secretly driving the bus. In today’s episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on how these emotions silently shape our actions—especially if you’re someone with insecure attachment. From overgiving and people-pleasing to taking responsibility for other people’s feelings, we unpack where guilt and shame come from, why they’re so sticky, and how to gently start loosening their grip. You’ll walk away with practical ways to poke holes in the guilt-shame narrative so you can show up more fully as yourself.

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