214. When We Blame Our Partner for Our Overgiving

This week I’m diving into a big theme that comes up for people with insecure attachment—taking responsibility for other people’s emotions. If your partner gets upset and you feel like you have to fix it, you’re not alone. But here’s the truth: they didn’t ask you to carry that weight. When we overextend, it leads to burnout, resentment, and even a loss of respect in the relationship.

In this episode, I’ll share how to separate your emotions from your partner’s, build tolerance for their discomfort, and take radical ownership of your own thoughts and beliefs. Because the key to healthier relationships isn’t fixing others—it’s learning to stay grounded in yourself.

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