The moment you know a relationship is over, and surviving a getaway with the in-laws

In a long-term relationship, when does someone start thinking, "This isn't working anymore?" What goes on between that initial thought and the final decision that its definitely over? Investigative journalist Nicole Madigan shares insights from her book Torn: Four Women’s Stories of Why They Left – or Why They Stayed. Psychologist and psychotherapist Stephen Andrew discusses his thoughts as an expert who specialises in treating individuals couples, thrupples and polycules.

In Ask Aunty, a letter-writer asks: How can I survive my in-laws' very different holiday expectations? Aunties Maeve Marsden, writer, theatre-maker and Nate Byrne, meteorologist on ABC News Breakfast, did into this thorny issue.