Inside Sensual Pleasure with Mangala Holland

I was excited to listen in to Mangala Holland’s wisdom because she knows a lot about pleasure and how to support people to find more of it in their lives in a way that is not about looking sexy for other people. 

No surprises then, that there is some explicit language in this episode. 

 Mangala is a Women’s Empowerment and Sexuality coach, and facilitator.  She describes herself as being on a mission to help pussy-owners become empowered through loving themselves fiercely, celebrating their sexuality, and overcoming the fear, guilt and shame that keeps them playing small.

What I love is that Mangala has a beautiful no-bullshit, fluff-free, grounded, dogma-free style. In this episode we discuss:

• How we can be confident in our sexuality, especially when we’ve been brought up in a culture of shame
• How to move from numbness to pleasure
• Mangala’s journey to an authentic, flowing expression of sexuality
• Why ‘shoving things up there’ from jade eggs to performance enhancers can create more trauma and block pleasure
• How sexual trauma can be played out in ‘healing’ groups, re-traumatising and shaming those who don’t perform as required
• How to check-in with yourself and thaw out the numbness
• How to check for a ‘yes’ before doing anything downstairs
• How sexual problems are more likely to be to do with having a too-tight pelvic floor than too loose
• How to build embodied awareness in your genital area and pelvic floor
• The toxic power dynamics and abuse present in some tantra organisations
• The problem with selling ‘empowerment’
• How to tell if a training is safe
• Moving away from the ‘male gaze’ to feel how we are from the inside
• And what happens when you are with another body trying to find pleasure

Along with lots more hot stuff and, of course, Mangala’s top tip for increasing pleasure in your life.

You can find Mangala's website and online program here

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