The Courage to Walk Away Part 2

What happens when the chaos and drama you've grown accustomed to in relationships suddenly disappears, replaced by something calm, supportive, and—dare we say—"boring"? Steph and Shellbz dive deep into the disorienting transition from toxic relationships to healthy ones, revealing the unexpected challenges that arise when you finally experience genuine love.

The hosts share vulnerable stories about their trauma responses, like apologizing excessively for simply existing. "I didn't even know I was doing it," Shellbz admits, while Steph shares how her partner gently points it out: "knock it off." They explore how previous partners systematically undermined their confidence through seemingly small criticisms—from eyeliner application to t-shirt choices—and the liberation that comes from finally being with someone who builds them up instead.

Perhaps most revealing is their mutual confession of not knowing how to respond when consistently receiving genuine affection and desire. "Yesterday she looked at me like I was a whole fucking snack just while I was trying to do shit around the house and I didn't know what to do with that," Shellbz shares. This leads to a profound discussion about distinguishing between infatuation, obsession, lust, and authentic love—and how past relationships they labeled as "love" were actually more about fixing someone or being needed.

The episode culminates in a powerful realization: healthy relationships feel different because they've finally learned to value themselves first. As Steph puts it, "I feel like at that point in time... I just wanted to show her that there was good in the world. But did I want that? Did I believe that was going to last? I don't think so."

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