173. Paying Attention to Our Deepest Desires and Illuminating What We Need to featuring Ruthie Ackerman

Author: Ronit Plank
Published: Thu 29 May 2025
Episode Link: https://letstalkmemoir.podbean.com/e/paying-attention-to-our-deepest-desires-and-illuminating-what-we-need-to-featuring-ruthie-ackerman/

Ruthie Ackerman joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation about maternal ambivalence and coming from a long line of women who abandoned their children, taking motherhood on from different angles, feeling ashamed of shame, illuminating what we need to about ourselves, listening to our inner voice, breaking cycles, focusing our work on the memoirist’s journey and search for understanding, when family members read our memoir, a close look at the trajectory of her book deal, finding another angle to a story, honing in on the universal question our memoir is asking, when the book needs to be something very different from what you imagined, The Ignite Writers Collective, and her memoir The Mother Code.

Also in this episode:

-rejecting binaries

-writing about others’ illnesses and differences

-when publishing is not an easy path

Books mentioned in this episode:

Bodywork by Melissa Febos

Avalanche: a love story by Julia Leigh

Belabored: A Vindication of the Rights of Pregnant Women by Lyz Lenz

The School for Good Mothers by Jessamine Chan

Inferno: A Memoir of Motherhood and Madness by Catherine Cho

An award-winning journalist, Ruthie's writing has been published in Vogue, Glamour, O Magazine, The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Salon, Slate, Newsweek, and more. Her Modern Love essay for the New York Times became the launching point for her forthcoming memoir, The Mother Code. Ruthie started The Ignite Writers Collective in 2019 and since then has become an in-demand book coach and developmental editor. Her client wins include a USA Today bestseller, book deals with Big 5 publishers, representation by buzzy book agents, and essays in prestigious outlets. She has a Master's in Journalism from New York University and lives in Brooklyn with her family.

Connect with Ruthie:

Website: https://www.ruthieackerman.com/

Instagram: @ruackerman

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ruthieackerman/

Workshops: https://www.ruthieackerman.com/new-workshop-page

Ruthie’s Bookshop shelf: https://bookshop.org/shop/ruthieackerman

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Ronit’s writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Rumpus, The New York Times, Poets & Writers, The Iowa Review, Hippocampus, The Washington Post, Writer’s Digest, American Literary Review, and elsewhere. Her memoir WHEN SHE COMES BACK about the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation was named Finalist in the 2021 Housatonic Awards Awards, the 2021 Indie Excellence Awards, and was a 2021 Book Riot Best True Crime Book. Her short story collection HOME IS A MADE-UP PLACE won Hidden River Arts’ 2020 Eludia Award and the 2023 Page Turner Awards for Short Stories.

She earned an MFA in Nonfiction Writing at Pacific University, is Creative Nonfiction Editor at The Citron Review, and teaches memoir through the University of Washington's Online Continuum Program and also independently. She launched Let's Talk Memoir in 2022, lives in Seattle with her family of people and dogs, and is at work on her next book.

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173. Paying Attention to Our Deepest Desires and Illuminating What We Need to featuring Ruthie Ackerman