04: How to Get Over Your Fears to Go For Your Dreams with Selena Soo

This episode of No One's Ever Asked Me That is called "How to Get Over Your Fears to Go for Your Dreams with Selena Soo". Selena is a publicity and marketing strategist who helps authors, experts, and coaches go from hidden gem to admired industry leader and even household name.

Today, she shares her true-to-life experiences with fear and how she overcame it, as well as leveraging visibility to propel her business (and that of her clients!) forward. Selena also talks about what lies beyond fear and the amazing possibilities for you by putting yourself out there.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

02:17 Fear holds you back, visibility moves you forward

07:31 Selena's own journey and how she put herself out there

15:19 Tips to get over your fear

18:05 Beyond fear and self-doubt: what lies on the other side

23:10 Audience comments and questions

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RESOURCES:

www.selenasoo.com
https://www.instagram.com/selena_soo/

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QUOTES:

05:51 "The media is always looking for fresh perspectives. They are looking for variety from people from all stages of business, all stages of life, so there is room for you. They're looking for someone like you."

07:55 "When it came to myself, I was like, oh I'm comfortable in the shadows. But I also realized at some point that, if I really wanted to help and reach more people and also see what was possible for me to reach my own personal potential, I had to put myself out there too."

10:41 "I'm comparing myself to them, the thing is, I'm just getting started in putting my message out there, so I can't compare myself to someone that's 10 years or 20 years in the game. And then the third thing is to remember that, actually, the only way for me to get to where they are, or even close to, is to do the work. So actually you're not going to be as good as you know you could be and you just have to be comfortable in that discomfort because that's just part of progress."

21:02 "I just started to see that a lot of the suffering that I had in my life and others, it was really self-created. And I became so passionate. I want people to know about these experts who can show people how to find their purpose, fix their thinking, believe in themselves, love themselves, heal their health, find a good relationship, start a business, really put their destiny in their own hand. It just felt like it was the most empowering thing. And the most important thing."

22:35 "I mean, I love spreading these important messages but I also feel just as proud, if not more proud, that I have developed the skills to put myself out there and I can show other people that you don't have to be someone who is a massive... extrovert, and if you are, that's great, but you don't need to be camera-ready and stage-ready in order to make an impact. You can actually develop these skills and put yourself out there and change lives."