Sexual Authenticity in the Modern World With LotusXN And Keith Westendorf

 In this powerful conversation, LotusXN and Keith Westendorf open up about sexual authenticity in today’s world, exploring the evolving definitions of queer, intersex, and asexual identities while confronting both progress and ongoing challenges within the LGBTQIA+ community. They share their personal coming-out journeys, reflect on the realities of racism inside the community, and highlight what straight people still don’t fully understand about authentic connection. The discussion blends heartfelt vulnerability with sharp cultural insight, inviting listeners to expand their perspective, embrace inclusivity, and reimagine what true acceptance looks like in modern society. 

Self-help starts with vulnerability and authenticity. Keith Westendorf’s journey shows how growing up in a large family with strong religious roots can shape identity, values, and relationships. Overcoming challenges, embracing self-improvement, and finding the courage to be vulnerable are powerful steps toward personal growth.

Through honesty, emotional intelligence, and curiosity, Keith inspires others to heal from childhood wounds, break free from cycles of emotional suppression, and create more meaningful connections. His story encourages openness as a path to stronger relationships, inclusivity, and a more understanding world.

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 LotusXN (she/they) is a dancer, choreographer, movement coach, and creative director whose work centers soul, story, and self-expression. As the visionary behind In Full Bloom and several other projects, she creates transformative experiences that honor queerness, Blackness, and the beauty of becoming. Through private lessons, choreography, and creative direction, Lotus offers space for others to move with intention—and bring their visions to life. Rooted in movement and meaning, Lotus brings powerful perspective to every space she enters.

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This podcast dives deep into real, raw topics—think vulnerability, triggers, and childhood trauma. But just so we're super clear: I’m not a licensed therapist, mental health professional, or anything close. I’m just a human sharing stories, lessons, and life hacks based on personal experience and a whole lot of curiosity.

So, while you might find some golden nuggets here, this is not therapy and should never replace professional mental health care. If you or someone you love is going through it, please—seriously—reach out to a licensed therapist or healthcare provider. You deserve the real deal.

Need Help Now?
Here are a few amazing resources:

· 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (U.S.): Call or text 988
· NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) or nami.org/help
· Therapy Directory: psychologytoday.com
· Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741

The opinions expressed on this show are ours and ours alone—no official organizations are responsible for what we say (or how much we overshare).