Learning how to Love - the secret to becoming emotionally secure

In this episode, Quinn Stainfield-Bruce explores the complexities of love, emotional security, and attachment styles. He discusses the journey of understanding one's own insecurities and the importance of self-reflection in building healthy relationships. The conversation delves into the dynamics of anxious and avoidant attachment styles, the illusion of attachment, and the necessity of inner work to achieve secure attachment. Ultimately, Quinn emphasizes the significance of trust and intimacy in relationships, highlighting that true emotional security comes from within.

takeaways

• Learning how to love is arguably the biggest thing to learn.
• Attachment styles play a crucial role in relationship dynamics.
• Fear is at the core of all insecurity.
• Secure attachment is not the absence of insecurity.
• We attract versions of ourselves in relationships.
• Inner work is essential for moving from insecure to secure attachment.
• Parenting oneself is key to emotional security.
• Lust and trust are essential components of relationships.
• Trust must be earned gradually, layer by layer.
• At the heart of all insecurity is the fear of not being enough.

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