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Ep 98: How to Believe You Can Change (Even If You Keep Failing)

Author
Mande John
Published
Thu 24 Jul 2025
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Have you ever tried to change something - maybe your habits, your routines, your mindset - and found yourself slipping right back into old patterns, again and again? It's frustrating. It's painful. And if you're like a lot of people Coach Mande works with, it makes you wonder: Will I ever really change?

In this episode, Mande tackles one of the most misunderstood parts of change - the part where you're still failing, still falling off track, but you still want it. That desire? That quiet hope you're afraid to say out loud again? It's not weakness. It's the beginning of everything.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

  • Why ADHD brains rarely change in a linear way (and why that's completely normal)
  • How to reframe your "failures" as proof that you haven't given up
  • The difference between starting over and starting deeper
  • Coach Mande's personal 4-step recommit process
  • Real examples of changes that took multiple attempts (including one she's working on right now)
  • How to trust your persistent longing even when execution isn't perfect

Key Takeaway: "If you didn't care, it wouldn't hurt. That pain you feel when you fall off track? It's not failure. It's proof of your desire."

Whether you're tired of the same old patterns or afraid to try again because you might fail, this episode will help you see your struggles through a completely different lens - one where your desire to change is evidence that transformation is still possible.

Resources Mentioned:

  • "Failing Forward" by John Maxwell
  • Episode 26: Being in a Hurry to Change
  • Coaching consultations: learntothrivewithadhd.com

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Tell us in the comments: What's one thing you still want to change, even if you've failed a hundred times?

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