How Our Birth Stories Shape Resilience and Parenting Across Generations with Care Messer

EPISODE 6: Birth, Belief, and Breaking Old Patterns — with Care Messer

In this episode, I sat down with my friend and fellow birth worker, Care Messer, to talk about the deep stuff, where our beliefs come from, how early trauma shapes us, and why self-awareness matters in healing.

We opened up about:

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  Our personal birth stories and how they laid patterns we didn’t even realize

  
  


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  My journey as an adoptee and what early separation left me holding

  
  


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  How parenting sometimes means writing apology letters and breaking old habits

  
  


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  The pressure families feel around induction, and what education can shift

  
  

Care and I both believe that you don’t have to stay stuck in the stories you were handed. You can choose to dig in, reflect, and rewrite how you show up, for your kids, your community, and yourself.

This episode is a reminder that resilience isn’t about pretending you’re fine. It’s about sitting with the real stuff, asking better questions, and doing the slow, brave work of healing.

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