Family Dynamics: What Doesn't Get Healed Gets Transferred Part 1

What does it really mean to have a healthy family dynamic? In this episode, we're joined by licensed professional counselor and family expert, Philip Costa, who helps us uncover the powerful ways our history and our day-to-day lives shape our families.

Philip shares how personal trauma, loss, and even birth order can influence our parenting in ways we're not always aware of. He introduces the powerful concept that what's not revealed is not healed, and gives listeners a clear path to begin addressing their own family dynamics. You'll also learn the difference between training and controlling your child, and why giving yourself grace is the first step toward creating lasting change.

Episode Highlights

• [01:10] Philip introduces himself and shares his personal story of loss, adoption, and being a blended family.
• [03:10] Defining family dynamics and how they impact every family, regardless of its unique makeup.
• [05:50] How to begin identifying your own family's dynamics and the importance of being aware of them.
• [12:20] Philip explains why what's not revealed isn't healed and how unresolved issues can get transferred to your children.
• [14:15] An explanation of the difference between training your child and controlling them.
• [23:00] Philip's top three pieces of advice for parents feeling overwhelmed and seeking to create change.

Resources Mentioned

• Book: What Happened to You? by Bruce Perry
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