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159: Why Drama-Seekers Are Obsessed with You (and How to Finally Stop the Cycle)

Author
MaryAnn Walker
Published
Thu 08 May 2025
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Do you constantly find yourself putting out emotional fires you didn’t start?
Are you the peacekeeper in relationships, only to feel drained by the chaos others bring?

If so, this episode is for you.

As an empath, a helper, or a recovering people pleaser, you might unknowingly attract people who thrive on drama. These tension seekers feed off conflict, and their emotional turbulence often disrupts your inner peace. In today’s episode, I’ll help you identify these patterns, understand why these people are drawn to you, and most importantly—how to protect your peace without dimming your light.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • The subtle signs of a tension seeker—and how they manipulate empathy.
  • Why drama seekers are magnetically drawn to empathetic people.
  • The emotional cost of being the "fixer" in these dynamics.
  • 3 powerful mindset shifts to reclaim your peace:
    • Protect your peace with firm boundaries.
    • It’s not your job to fix other people’s messes.
    • Your light is not the problem—protect it, don’t shrink it.
  • Clear boundary examples you can start using today—spoken or unspoken.
  • How to stop the people-pleasing loop and start honoring your inner calm.

Challenge for the Week:

Ask yourself:
“Where am I accommodating someone else's chaos in an attempt to keep the peace?”
Then lovingly take one step to reclaim your space and energy.

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If this episode resonated with you, you don’t have to navigate this alone. My 6-week coaching package is designed to help empaths and highly sensitive people, like you, to set boundaries, stop people pleasing, and reclaim their energy—without guilt.
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Your peace matters. You don’t have to earn it by fixing other people first.

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