Why Is Change So Hard?

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You're Not Committed

Have you ever heard the quote, “It's easier to hold your principles 100 percent of the time than it is to hold them 98 percent of the time,.” by Clayton Christensen?

This is the principle of commitment. It's easier to be 100% committed than 98% committed. 

If you're struggling to commit, to be committed, work on being committed mentally. 

Find your why and commit to it!

You're Not Making Daily Progress

It sounds simple, but momentum builds momentum.

If you're anything like me, one of the things that holds you back from making the changes you want to make is a lack of momentum. 

Building momentum is a daily process, and the best way to build momentum is to make daily progress. 

If you've been struggling to make the change you want to make, do these 2 simple things:

1. Start today and do something small. 
2. Make a small and simple plan to do it again tomorrow.

You Don't Have The Support You Need

Most people try to create change all on their own. 

I get it. 

You might be ashamed that you've let yourself get where you are today. 

You might not believe that you can make the change you want. 

Whatever your reason for doing it alone, you DON'T have to do it alone. 

Get the support you need. 

Inside of our Firmly Founded Family membership, we've seen countless parents and teens who have tried everything on their own, but once they got the help they needed, change was easy. 

When you build a community around you, you get some huge benefits, like:

• Accountability
• Support
• Different Perspectives
• Friends
• Examples of New Possibilities

Get the support you need, and start creating real change in your life.

You're Old Ways Are Benefiting You

We do what we think benefits us. 

Your habits and patterns are designed to continue getting you the old benefit that the original action, the start of the habit, once got you. 

If you're having a hard time making a change, explore these questions:

• How is this benefiting me?
• What benefit do I get from this?
• Why did I want this benefit?
• How is this no longer benefiting me?
• How would it benefit me to change?

It's Part Of Your Identity

It's really hard to go against your identity. 

This is one of the reasons it's so hard for smokers to quit. They identify as "Smokers".

It's easy to identify as your old self or your old habits, but it's not helpful. 

Part of what holds you back from making the change you want to make is seeing yourself as you are, or as you used to be, but not being able to see yourself for who you are becoming.

Want to make a powerful change? 

Then shift your identity. 

Start BEing that dream version of yourself today.

See where you are right now, and create the story in your mind of how it connects to where you want to be.

You're Making It Harder Than It Needs To Be

Sometimes we make change harder than it needs to be. 

Explore how the change you want to make can actually be easy. 

I've had clients that after exploring how their change could actually be easy

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