Be the Change from the Inside Out

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Times I've Tried to Change From the Outside In. 

I've got to be honest. I am guilty of trying to change things from the outside in. Even with everything that I know, I still find myself trying to change things from the outside in. 

Just yesterday, in fact it was probably today at like 12:30 am on the way home from my oldest son's basketball tournament, I tried to change something from the outside in. 

I wanted my son to go to summer football workouts the next morning and he didn't want to. I tried to change his mind. I tried to help him see that he was missing out on an opportunity to show up when tons of his teammates will be missing football due to the previous late night. 

I tried to help him see that this would be a powerful moment for him to demonstrate his commitment to football to his team and his coaches. 

I wanted to change him, how he was showing up in football, and I was losing this battle. 

I was totally trying to change something outside of myself, hoping it would change something inside of myself. 

I thought, if I could just get him to go to football, he'd be a better football player, he'd dominate the game, everyone would know that my offspring is superior in the sport of football, and I'd be proud!

Inside Out vs Outside In 

Most people try to change things from the outside in.

In parenting you might try to change your teen, your spouse, or your teen's choices, all so you can feel better inside. 

When it comes to health, you might try to change your exercise routine, your diet, or your doctor, all so you can be healthier on the inside. 

When it comes to wealth, you might try to work extra hours, get a new job or win the lottery, all so that on the inside you can enjoy the benefits of wealth. 

The problem is, these are all efforts to change something on the outside so you can experience change on the inside. 

Often times when you try to change things outside of yourself, you are focusing on things that you cannot control. 

The most powerful way to change is from the inside out!

In PARENTING, rather that trying to change your spouse or teen so you can feel peace and confidence, YOU can BE THE CHANGE!
Change how YOU Think, Feel, and Act. These are all internal changes. Change YOU and how you are BEing.

When it comes to health, change who you are on the inside. I AM HEALTHY! Then, live from that place. As a healthy person, . . . I only eat food that fuels my body, . . . I enjoy regular vigorous activity. 

See how the change starts from the inside and then radiates outward? 

When it comes to wealth, choose to be wealthy. Choose to be generous and helpful. Choose to be intentional with your money. These all start on the inside. 

How to Change from the Inside Out

Step #1 - Awareness

As is the case so often, the first step is awareness. WHERE AM I TRYING TO CHANGE FROM THE OUTSIDE->IN?

Step #2 - Identify & Shift

Step #3 - Practice

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