7 Ways to Start a Divorce Without Serving Your Spouse

Serving divorce papers might be the legal way to start a divorce—but it’s not always the best way. In this episode, attorney Bobby Buchanan explains why serving your spouse should be a last resort, not your first move.

Bobby walks through seven practical and respectful alternatives to serving papers that can help you start the divorce process without escalating tensions or creating unnecessary drama. From attorney-drafted letters to informal settlement meetings and complete divorce proposals, you’ll learn how to keep things civil, cost-effective, and in your control.

Whether your divorce is amicable or you’re dealing with a stubborn spouse, this episode is packed with insights to help you move forward thoughtfully and strategically.

What you’ll learn:

• Why service is often the worst way to start your divorce
• How to start the process through conversation—not confrontation
• What a “friendly” lawyer letter can actually look like
• Ways to maintain privacy, avoid court, and reduce emotional stress
• How to keep your case moving when your spouse won’t engage

This episode is a must-listen if you want a divorce that’s efficient, private, and as peaceful as possible.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Please consult a professional for legal guidance specific to your situation.

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