38: Hit and Quit It

In this episode, Matt, Steve, and Jessica will dive into why Steve and Sebastian’s relationship didn’t work out and discuss how dating went for Jessica. A lot of listeners have been reaching out to the trio about why Steve and Sebastian are not together, and so they will go into a journal entry that Steve had written about what went wrong with the relationship.

Steve and Sebastian met while Steve was still married to Jessica and it was an intense on/off relationship all through, up until Steve and Jessica separated. They kept seeing each other more seriously after the separation, but somewhere along the way, they had to break things off because Steve had decided to get back with Jessica.

Of course, things didn’t work out the second time around with Steve and Jessica, so they got divorced. A couple of years later, way after Jessica and Matt were married, Steve and Sebastian gave things another try. Steve had never moved on from him for all those years, and never even gave anyone else a chance, and he says the reason it failed this time around was because he was a totally different person.

When they first met, he was a total disaster. He had just come out, and he really needed someone to hold his hand and guide him through gay life. Sebastian took up that role with pleasure and that formed the basis of their relationship, but this last time around when they gave things another try, Steve being in a better place made him see how unhealthy their relationship really was, so eventually it just couldn’t work.

It’s going to be a great story of just how relationships are never perfect, the huge role that compatibility plays in strengthening a relationship, and how important it is for anyone in a relationship to always feel free to be themselves in that relationship. Jessica’s crappy issues with dating during that same time will also make for a great story, so you’re definitely gonna love this episode. Enjoy, learn, and don’t forget to share.

Highlights of the Discussion:

• The new friends’ car keys fiasco and how awful it made Steve feel (01:48)
• The different experiences people have in the marriage Steve and Jessica had (08:10)
• The intense emotional situation that was their relationships (13:28)
• The dating hell they went through back then and how Steve is still currently in it (15:48)
• The codependency that Steve and Sebastian’s relationship was based on (17:31)
• The importance of feeling that we are good enough to be with someone (20:48)
• The stalker who was telling on Steve to Sebastian (21:53)
• The struggles Jessica had with finding a good LDS guy to date (27:37)
• A totally different relationship with a totally different person who likes different things (30:56)
• The guy who just couldn’t respect Jessica’s boundaries (33:52)
• The “Let me know if you break up with her” thing (41:34)

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• www.Linktr.ee/TheBoldLogic

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