31: Cutting Ties

In this episode, Matt, Steve, and Jessica will talk to Roxanne Kennedy Granata, author of the amazing book "Cutting Ties", where she shares her story of healing through the trials of sexual betrayal, fighting to save her marriage, divorce, and rebuilding her life. Not only does she share her personal story, but she also offers hope to all women so that they can heal no matter what happens to their marriage.

Many couples who work through recovery from sexual addiction, pornography addiction, and betrayal trauma end up staying together, but in Roxanne’s case, she had to contend with betrayal from her husband because he choose not to continue working on his recovery process, which ultimately led to their divorce.

She comes on to talk about her experiences of healing from her relationship with an addict, and share her remarkable life journey and insights on how to tackle marital issues in a way that does not negatively impact on oneself. She will also advise us all on a wide range of life issues that affect us all, so we can learn how to work on building better relationships with ourselves and others. This will be a great listen for parents of children, local leaders, and spouses, so stay tuned for more.

Highlights of the discussion: 

• How Roxanne met Jessica and Steve (01:59)
• The TV getting stuck between channels and exposing the husband’s porn addiction (03:39)
• Going into the 12 step program and committing four years (07:00)
• The duration of time between starting the support meetings and getting divorced (15:34)
• What rehab looks like for a porn addict (16:27)
• One of the most damaging things about addiction (18:05)
• The person who’s stabbing you cannot be the one picking you up (20:54)
• Working on ourselves to heal from the pain and trauma (23:26)
• It’s less about perfection and more about doing the work and wanting to progress in life (28:13)
• Using her own book to help her remember what kind of boundaries to hold (34:00)
• The hope of healing and finding the light regardless of the unique situation one is in (36:33)
• The difference between setting a realistic expectation for our kids and sheltering them from the realities of life (37:58)
• The point at which Roxanne would recommend somebody takes the first step to go into the 12 step program (43:21)
• The need for men to love themselves and feel emotions so they connect with themselves (44:57)

Additional Resources:

• Cutting Ties By Roxanne Kennedy Granata
• Roxanne on Facebook and Instagram
• www.CuttingTies.com
• Roxanne’s Email Address - [email protected]
• www.Linktr.ee/TheBoldLogic
• Husband in Law on Instagram
• Husband in Law on Facebook

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