What No One Tells You About Being Married to Someone on the Spectrum

Kim was married for nearly 18 years to someone she describes as kind, funny, and devoted. He showed up for their family in ways that looked like love: cooking asparagus and strawberries for her after their daughter was born, holding her hand through infertility, leaving umbrellas in his car to hand out to strangers. But behind the scenes, Kim was carrying something else: the burden of loneliness.

In this episode, Kim sits down with Kathleen to talk about what it’s like to be in a relationship that looks good on the outside but quietly leaves you feeling alone. Over time, she started asking herself a quiet question: Could my partner be on the spectrum?

Their conversation is honest, tender, and full of moments that make you pause. Sometimes you don’t realize how much you’ve been carrying until someone gives you the words for it. That’s what this conversation offers: a way to finally name what’s been hard to explain.

You’ll hear:

• The signs that led Kim to ask, “Could my partner be on the spectrum?”
• What it’s like to carry the emotional labor of a marriage alone
• The difference between doing things together and simply being in the same space
• Why it’s not always about ill intent, but about different ways of processing
• How understanding neurodivergence gave Kim clarity, compassion, and peace
• What a loving separation can look like and why they’re still close friends today

If you’ve ever found yourself holding up the emotional weight of a relationship, or wondering why things feel harder than they should, this episode will speak to you.

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