You Don't Need Bangs to Prove You're Healing

What happens after you hang up on a relationship? Not the curated, Pinterest-board version. The real, messy aftermath. The crying in your car, forgetting to eat, avoiding his side of town kind of aftermath.

Breakups, especially divorces, can turn you into an accidental public figure overnight. People start refreshing your Instagram like it’s breaking news: photos gone, thirst traps up, maybe even bangs. There is pressure to make your healing look good, to perform it like you have it all figured out when inside you are just trying to survive the day.

The truth is the quiet, unglamorous days are where it actually happens. The ones that feel like nothing is changing. Where you are not crying, not thriving, not having some big epiphany. You are just existing. That is where you start to unlearn the lies. That missing them means you made the wrong choice. That strong people do not fall apart. That you are “behind” if you are not already thriving.

This episode is your permission to let it be ugly, uneven, and yours. Because the middle, the messy unposted part, is where the real healing lives.

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