Highly Successful Couples

A great conversation with Ben Goresky from Evolving Man on why Men might struggle in relationships and what they can do about it.

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Affairs aren’t just about sex or betrayal. They’re often unconscious attempts to soothe old wounds left behind by childhood neglect, inconsistent caregiving, or unmet emotional needs. Today, we break…

This episode is all about aliveness. The energy, spark, and vitality that makes a relationship feel worth being in. We break down the five pillars of aliveness: passion, purpose, presence, playfulnes…

In this episode, we explore one of the most important (and often overlooked) ingredients in a thriving relationship: safety. Not just physical safety, but emotional safety. The kind that allows both …

What if your struggles in the bedroom aren’t about low libido or incompatibility, but about the cultural scripts you’ve absorbed your entire life? In this episode, Nick breaks down how hip-hop has sh…

We all talk about red flags, but do we really understand what they mean? In this episode, Nick breaks down the real story behind red flags in dating and long-term relationships. You’ll learn where th…

Are you resisting change in your relationship because you fear losing yourself? In this episode, I unpack the difference between self-abandonment and relational growth, and why the right kind of chan…

If every attempt to talk turns into blame, shutdown, or conflict, you’re not alone and you’re not crazy. Defensiveness is more than just a bad habit; it’s a protective strategy rooted in deeper emoti…

Stop exiting and start healing. In this episode, we explore the idea of “relationship exits”, the subtle and not-so-subtle ways we pull away from connection when things get hard. Whether it’s scrolli…

In this episode, Nick revisits the foundational phases of a relationship, from the honeymoon stage to the power struggle, through emotional coping, and into the possibility of conscious partnership. …

In this episode, we explore some of the most common illusions people carry into romantic relationships and the subtle beliefs that quietly create resentment, disconnection, and confusion. From the fa…

In this episode of Highly Successful Couples, Nick breaks down what it really means to be in a conscious relationship—and why most couples never get there. We explore the difference between autopilot…

In this episode, I explore the quiet power of small daily disciplines and how they shape the trajectory of our lives and relationships. I unpack why the simple things we often ignore, like expressing…

In this episode, Nick explores the unavoidable truth that both life and relationships come with suffering, as well as how that suffering can actually be a doorway to growth. He breaks down common emo…

Unpacking lessons from 10 years of marriage. After a reddit users post when completely viral, we dive into their writing and identify key insights that can help anyone who is interested in a successf…

Today, we journey into the vital but often overlooked landscape of somatic sexology and its transformative impact on long-term relationships. In this episode, we sit down with Deej Juventin, co-direc…

In this episode, we explore the profound insights of Helen LaKelly Hunt and Harville Hendrix, trailblazers in relationship transformation and the minds behind the IMAGO theory.

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In this episode, we're joined by applied sexologists Martin Beaudoin and Ashley Rose to explore the intersection of intimacy, healing, and growth within relationships. Discover how their innovative a…

Nick and Alissa pull back the curtain on their own relationship, sharing the bumps, bruises, and beautiful moments they've experienced along the way. They delve into their rapid journey from moving i…

On today's episode, Melina McConnell sheds light on why having a shared vision goes beyond just love and how it can help partners understand and work with each other better. We discuss practical stra…