4 Things Confident People Do Differently

There is a secret weapon against self doubt that you have at your disposal.

Not only am I pointing out this important idea, but I’m including four steps below that will allow you deploy this weapon in your battle with that nagging voice of self-doubt in your head.

The secret weapon is self-efficacy.

Say what?

I know it sounds fancy, but self-efficacy is simply the belief in your ability to succeed in specific situations. It’s the opposite of self-doubt.
My self-efficacy in football is what propelled me to play my hardest no matter the team’s record. And my teammates knew who to count on for the big catch.

You’ll need to cultivate that sense of strength within you and here are four ways how.

1 – Master Your Experiences

Repetition is the mother of skill.

Just think about the first time you do anything or go anywhere. You’re uncertain. It takes a while for you to get going. But over time, you do it a lot and then it becomes second-nature.

Don’t focus on success. Focus on your reps.

Break it down into small chunks and master it.

2 – Model Yourself on Other Successful People

Find someone who has been to the top of the mountain and do what they do behavior-wise.

If they can do it, so can you.

The four-minute mile seemed impossible until one guy did it. Everything is just like that.

Find a mentor or study successful people. Model yourself on them.

3 – Upgrade Your Circle of Influence

You’re the average of the five closest people to you, so make sure that they are top-notch people.

Notice who’s in their circle. Notice their habits and behaviors.

Are they generally positive? Are they mindful of the world and their place in it? Are they thoughtful?

Be sure that the people around you are positive people and making a positive impact in the world. And then let them make a positive impact on you.

4 – Master Your Emotions

Your emotional state will almost always determine your success.

If you’re feeling negative or defensive or emotionally compromised in some way, chances are you’re going to start questioning your abilities and that’s bad.

Minimize stress whenever you can. Let go of things if they’re not important. Put the baggage down if carrying it is stressful.

Maximize your self-efficacy by simply elevating your mood whenever you can.

These four steps will help keep self-doubt at bay because they will improve your self-efficacy.

By becoming more efficient at what you do, that self-doubt in your head will grow quieter and quieter.

We know it can never go away (we don't want it to!), but you don't have to let it paralyze you.

I know that many of you are destined for great things and I'm hopeful that by sharing my journey with self-doubt, you can learn from me and incorporate these elements into your life.