Putting You First: Why It's Time to Decenter Men and Focus on Us

Let’s get real for a minute: How many of us were raised to be the perfect wife, putting men’s needs before our own? I know I was. We were taught to cook, clean, and cater to men, but when did anyone ask us what we wanted?

In this episode, I’m getting into the reality that many Black American women, especially millennials, were brought up to be more concerned with securing the “wife” title than our own well-being. It’s time to flip the script. We know better now, so let’s start doing better—focusing on our own happiness and growth, and not on what men think of us.

This isn’t about bashing men—trust me, I’m all for healthy, romantic relationships. But after taking a break from my five-year marriage to focus on myself, I realized how much I was missing by centering men in my life. Now, it’s about decentering them and prioritizing me—my needs, my wants, and my happiness.

Join me in this episode as we talk about what it means to truly put ourselves first and how that can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships in the long run. You can’t learn about yourself if you’re always looking for a man to save or distract you.

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