Ep 17: Pursuing independence without hurting our parents

As we move into adulthood, the pursuit for independence can be at odds with our parent's wishes, especially in the Asian context. We may not agree with our parents on what's best for us (career, relationship, lifestyle etc). We may stop showing affection towards them. And along the way, that might leave them feeling hurt or abandoned. 

In this episode, Cheryl and Kai Xin chat about 

• Their relationships with their parents.


• Moving out 


• Not pursuing the career that most parents think is 'good'


• Saying "I love you" to parents 


• Dealing with Toxic parents 


• Ways to repay our parents 

Transcript here: bit.ly/3X4JjoP

Timestamp:

(1:56): Are you filial?

(5:50): Kai Xin’s relationship with parents

(8:16): Cheryl’s relationship with her mother

(11:02): Love or views?

(14:06): Conflict-averse and wanting independence

(15:01): Do first and ask for forgiveness later

(20:08): I know better than you!

(22:21): Kai Xin the Rebel

(27:10): Do you say I love you to your parents?

(30:58): Tips to communicate with your parents in conflict

(38:44): How to repay your parents?

(43:48): What if your parents are of a different faith?

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