I am growNman 134 Fatherhood by Design

What makes a father worthy of celebration? Is it merely biology, financial support, or something deeper? In this raw and honest Father's Day reflection, we explore the profound difference between being a father and practicing intentional fatherhood.

The hard truth many don't want to hear: living with your children matters. When fathers don't share a home with their kids, they miss crucial developmental moments that can never be recaptured through weekend visits or financial support. This isn't about shaming those in separated situations, but rather challenging young people to consider the lifelong consequences of creating life with someone they aren't prepared to build a stable home with.

Fatherhood isn't about clearing the low bar set by previous generations. Many comfort themselves with the idea that they're "better than their parents," without recognizing this as a false benchmark. True fatherhood requires intentional growth – constantly examining your behaviors, communication patterns, and emotional availability. Your daughter will likely seek partners with characteristics similar to yours, while your son learns his concept of manhood from watching you navigate life's challenges.

The most powerful gift you can give your children isn't material but exemplary: demonstrating healthy relationships, emotional intelligence, and thoughtful decision-making. Father's Day isn't about celebrating the ability to create life, but honoring the daily commitment to shape it through presence, intention, and unwavering effort.

Are you becoming the father your children deserve? The work begins now, not just on Father's Day. Make today better than yesterday. G-A-T-A: Get after that action or that action will get after you.