102 — Confidence is Earned: Outworking Self-Doubt

Confidence. Everyone wants it, but few understand how to actually get it. Is it some innate superpower you’re born with, or is it something you build? Is it about repeating affirmations in the mirror, or does it come from something deeper?

Today, I’m breaking down the truth about confidence—what it actually is, where it comes from, and most importantly, how you can build it for yourself. Spoiler: it’s not about talking yourself up. It’s about stacking undeniable proof that you are who you say you are.

From chubby seventh-grade Brett trying to fit in, to stepping onto the volleyball court for the first time, to running ultra-marathons and pushing my own limits, I’ve seen firsthand that confidence isn’t granted—it’s earned. Every repetition, every action, every uncomfortable step forward adds to the belief that you’re capable of more.

So here’s the question: Where are you seeking confidence without putting in the work? Are you expecting to feel ready before you take action, or are you willing to outwork your self-doubt and prove yourself wrong?

This episode is about practical confidence. No fluff, no feel-good slogans—just real steps to becoming the person you know you can be.

Three Key Takeaways:

1. Confidence is Built, Not Given – Confidence doesn’t magically appear. It’s the result of repeated action, stacking undeniable proof that you are capable. You can’t think your way into confidence—you have to earn it.
2. Action Kills Doubt – The more you do, the more capable you become. Whether it’s stepping into a new challenge, pushing through discomfort, or simply showing up every day, action is what eliminates self-doubt.
3. Small Wins Matter – Confidence isn’t one big achievement; it’s a thousand small wins stacked over time. Track your progress, celebrate your growth, and let each win reinforce the belief that you can handle more.

Listen in, take action, and as always—keep getting after it.

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