204. The Rise of the Rom-Con

We’re back with late-summer vibes, a Jersey date-day report, and a conversation that matters: romance scams are on the rise. Think “Tinder Swindler” playbook, love bombing, urgency, and then the ask. We talk through what to watch for, how to protect yourself, and how to support someone you suspect is being targeted.

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  Digital distraction is invading quality time. Phones at the table, scrolling on the sofa, autopilot disconnection.

  
  


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  Ideological differences (values, politics, gender roles) are getting sharper and harder to bridge.

  
  


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  Hectic lifestyles erode intimacy when everything becomes logistics.

  
  


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  Childhood wounds show up as adult conflict patterns (attachment, defensiveness, shutdown).

  
  

We unpack how sophisticated romance scams work and why everyone is vulnerable, especially when lonely, stressed, or having low self-esteem.

Red flags: moves fast, intense declarations, inconsistent stories, reluctance to video chat or meet, sudden money or “investment” requests, pressure and secrecy.

Protect yourself: set non-negotiables (no money, ever), verify identities, slow the pace, keep close friends in the loop.

If you’re supporting a friend: lead with care, not “I told you so,” share evidence gently, and stay available—shame keeps people silent. Recovery is possible.

“My partner never wants to make plans, and I feel unimportant. How do I raise this without sounding controlling?”

We explore the planner–spontaneous pairing and offer scripts:

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  Invite a future-focused plan: “Would you be open to booking dinner next Friday?”

  
  


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  If they resist, get curious: “What comes up for you when plans are set in advance?”

  
  


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  Allow time for a maybe-to-yes shift; don’t react to the first “no.”

  
  


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  Aim for both/and: a couple of planned anchors each month plus room for spontaneity.

  
  

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  Phone-free meal or walk, just to talk.

  
  


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  One small plan made a week ahead (reservation, tickets, picnic).

  
  


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  If dating online: share new connections with a trusted friend; verify identities before you invest time or trust.

  
  

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Sara Liddle — www.inflori.co.uk

Anna Stratis — www.coachdocanna.com