Ep 09: Damn Those Underlying Uncomfortable Feelings

Have you ever noticed that when anger shows up, it's often covering up something deeper? For so many of us, anger feels familiar, maybe even easier to lean into than other uncomfortable emotions. But here's the thing: anger often isn't the root of the issue—it's a reaction, a secondary emotion masking what's really going on beneath the surface.

In this episode, we're unpacking how anger works and exploring the hidden emotions that fuel it. I’ll walk you through the three ways we typically express anger—whether we react, resist, or avoid—and how recognizing your own patterns is key to breaking free from that cycle.

Remember, choosing anger over other emotions is a habit, and like any habit, it takes time and self-compassion to shift. As you listen, you'll learn how to pause, reflect, and start uncovering the real feelings behind your anger. Be kind to yourself in this process—it’s all part of the journey.

“Allow yourself a moment to observe your life from a completely different perspective, and maybe this alone will be the spark that ignites a change.”- unknown

What You'll Learn: 

• Understand why anger often feels more powerful than the pain of underlying emotions.
• Learn how repeated exposure to our activators leads to anger becoming a learned habit over time.
• Discover how resentment is one of the key emotions that fuels and sustains the anger cycle.
• Practice a simple exercise to gently explore what’s really beneath your anger, allowing you to identify your true feelings with compassion.

Featured:

• Click HERE to receive my Underlying Emotions Iceberg Graphic.
• Find more information about the book: Transforming Anger: The HeartMath Solution for Letting Go of Rage, Frustration and Irritation.

• Learn about Arpita's next Circle of Six Small Group Coaching Cohort HERE.
• Learn more about Dr. Arpita Gupta DePalma's programs with Thought Work, MD, including 1-to-1 coaching for individuals, group coaching cohorts for organizations, and her online self-study courses HERE.
• Transforming Your Anger From Reaction to Response Online Self Study Course with Dr. Arpita Gupta DePalma.