S3E11: FINISH WELL - Set Up Hedges of Protection

In Season 3 Episode 11, we talk about setting up hedges of protection around your marriage. As we have worked through some of these hedges in Season 2 of the podcast, Scott and Dawn aim to coach you through how to develop these protections. Take some time to consider what "policies or procedures" you can develop for yourselves to protect your marriage and family. They explain how it's important to go ahead and talk about these things now, not because you don't trust each other, but because you want to guard the trust that you do have.

We encourage you to work through this list of policies as a couple:

Policies & Procedures for Marriage

Take some time to consider what policies and procedures you can develop for yourselves to protect your marriage and family. Below are some of the areas that we’ve considered, but there may be others that are pertinent to your life and marriage that would be helpful to create a policy for.

Relational Policy

• Are we going to make our relationship a priority over our children, extended family, church family, ect?
• What are we going to do to ensure we are relationally and intimately connected for all of life?

Financial Policy

• What amount of money are you comfortable with your spouse spending without first talking to you?
• Are you both fully aware of your financial status - what’s coming in, what’s going out?
• Are we going to tithe? Are we going to give to charitable organizations?
• Are we both fully aware of the accounts we have and the balances in them?
• How do you handle credit? How much are you comfortable with? Will you pay it off each month?

Social Media Policy

• How much time will we spend on social media?
• Do we have access to one another’s social media accounts?
• What kind of posting is acceptable to you both?
• Are you both comfortable posting pictures of your children?

Alcohol Policy

• Do we have a zero tolerance policy?
• Is there anything regarding me and alcohol that makes you uncomfortable?
• Who are we comfortable drinking around?
• What are our consumption limitations?

Mentioned in this episode:

• Season 2 Episodes 12 & 13
• Hedges of Protection blogpost 
• Scripture: Proverbs 11:25, Proverbs 22:7