#35 Safety v. Non-threatening: the Feminine Experience of Integrated v. Un(der)integrated Masculine Energy (pt 1)

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This is a hot topic! Based on our interactions with men on tiktok, “safety” and “non-threatening” seem to be used synonymously- but, as the Feminine partner, they feel totally different.

Men, we want to preface this- it isn’t intended to shame a man in any stage of his development, but rather to shine a light on how different levels/types of energy may be received by a feminine body. If you are wanting to create a dynamic where a woman naturally “submits” to your leadership, she will find that easier to do when she can sense your strength is working on her behalf (vs coming at her or needing to rely on her own for safety).

For women who are committed to their Feminine energy, the key distinction is in your physiological response- does your body naturally soften more in his presence or do you feel neutral around him? Can you freely express yourself or is there a sense that you are needing to continually monitor the situation and censor yourself? One will naturally create more room for sexual tension while the other will stifle it.

-Integrated Masculine energy *feels* like sturdiness and strength. It has less to do with physical size, and more to do with the energetic capacity the other person carries (/owns).

-Non-threatening energy may not cause direct harm but it will not allow her to soften as deeply because she is still needing her own masculine energy online. In our experience, the feeling of safety occurs with a man who has more integrated Masculine energy than she does.

-A man who is stepping more into his masculine energy will take what feels like (from the Feminine perspective) an active stance when it comes to her sense of safety- emotionally and physically- allowing her to soften her defenses.

-The "alpha male" (this is in quotes because the men we've experienced the most safety around speak differently than men who call themselves "alpha") this man is activated/-ing his warrior energy but he hasn't integrated enough of his own Feminine energy to direct his strength effectively and he will often be experienced as more of a perpetrator than a protector by the Feminine.

To creating something that honors us both,

Courtney & Bri

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