31: Understanding What We Are...

We’re in Season 5–titled “We Got Issues,” helping you to navigate through some common conflict and/or communication issues that arise in establishing and maintaining romantic relationships.

This episode is all about navigating a “connection check-in” to gain the clarity you need without applying too much pressure. I’m using a specific example inspired by a client but I also generalize to fit all the other stories I’ve counseled through this year too.  You will hear a play-by-play as I lead you in how to guide this kind of conversation with your hope-to-be boo without feeling like you’re doing “too much” or trying to lead the relationship.

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• 2025 Moon, Mood, & Menses Calendar {regular}


• 2025 Moon, Mood, & Menses Calendar {Biblical}


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Time Stamps:

[03:14] An overview of what today’s show and who will benefit from listening

[05:35] An example of a triggering event that leads to a check-in conversation

[08:16] Language that you can use to gain the clarity without applying too much pressure

[08:42] The role of vulnerability during check-in conversations

[10:52] Decisions you need to make before broaching a check-in conversation

[13:01] An exciting announcement: the 2025 Moon, Mood, and Menstruation Calendar is here! 

[13:46] An example from Nobody Wants This on overstepping boundaries [spoiler alert] 

[15:48] How to state your desires without coming across as too pushy

[16:50] A bonus feature I offer my coaching clients as support for check-in conversations

[18:42] The benefits of my group coaching program 

[19:14] Why it is so important to consider the timing of a check-in conversation

[23:49] What it means to be on the same page as your {potential} partner   

[27:05] Today’s thought/heart-provoking questions for your journal