21: Her Inevitable Divorce

Greetings, Lovebugs! Welcome to our seventh and final experience. I welcome Taccarra Davenport who shares her marriage-to-divorce story while sharing some societal pressures and the impact of religious teachings.

Taccarra also opens up about her personal struggles, detailing moments of challenge and the emotional toll of unhealthy relationships.

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Time Stamps:

• [2:23] - My guest Taccarra and I discuss divorce and its aftermath.


• [5:06] - I respect Taccarra’s balance between openness and discretion.


• [7:29] - Taccarra helps professional women redefine success and discover authentic identities.


• [9:50] - Taccarra's shares about meeting her ex-husband to divorce with lessons learned.


• [12:38] - Taccarra recounts the beginning of her relationship, starting in the military in Korea.


• [15:23] - Taccarra's transition to a LD relationship after moving to Maryland for nursing school.


• [17:56] - Taccarra discusses the logistical challenges of her relationship.


• [19:51] - Although Taccarra underwent pre-marital counseling, the identified areas for improvement ultimately led to divorce.


• [20:49] - I discuss the Church's role in addressing challenges faced by couples and the need for comprehensive ongoing support.


• [24:39] - Taccarra reflects on the Church's role in her premarital counseling, noting the need for more nuanced guidance.


• [27:18] - Taccarra still feels that she overlooked crucial flags before marriage.


• [29:03] - Taccarra shares her mother's guidance on relationships during her college years.


• [31:22] - Taccarra reveals her lack of exposure to relationships, stemming from her parents' separation and a focus on education.

• [38:05] - Taccarra discusses the challenges in adjusting to married life.


• [40:17] - We explore the profound impact of words and their weight in marriage.


• [43:56] - Taccarra reflects on the unintended impact of her words, realizing the significance of making her husband feel needed.


• [46:14] - Hear Taccarra expand upon her definition of need, emphasizing the significance of community.


• [48:04] - Hear about how their marriage initially improved in Germany.

• [54:57] - Taccarra speaks on researching family history to consciously break harmful patterns.


• [56:19] - Taccarra details how, recognizing the persistent patterns, she opted against enduring more, leading to a divorce decision.


• [58:46] - We discuss how being stuck in the marital home during the divorce process brought emotional challenges and trauma.


• [1:01:18] - Navigating through the divorce process, changing names, and dealing with inquiries became overwhelming emotionally for Taccarra.

• [1:07:55] - Taccarra expresses enthusiastic gratitude for therapists and dating coaches.


• [1:10:45] - Taccarra identifies inconsistencies as having been the biggest red flag.

• [1:15:40] - Charismatic nature made Taccarra overlook red flags, relying on assumptions.


• [1:21:43] - Taccarra draws connections limited interaction with her father and he need for consistent male guidance and affirmation.


• [1:24:49] - Taccarra argues that being part of a community imparts wisdom, enabling one to learn from others' experiences.


• [1:27:04] - Taccarra has learned that her purpose is to create community and mentor women.

• [1:32:24] - Marriage shouldn't lack fun, and the journey to true happiness shouldn't take years!


• [1:33:14] - Taccarra enters the Sacred Sisterhood Circle with me.

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Connect with Taccarra:

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• Her Podcast 


• Her Book: A Letter to My Sister

Literature & Links Mentioned

• Her Inevitable Divorce Blog Post {+ Episode Guide}


• 13: I Feel My Power