17: Her Dating Dry Spell

Greetings, Lovebugs! Welcome to our third experience. I am back in the studio to interview Kaity Rodriguez with an update on her 100 Dates in Houston Blog Series. We discuss Dates 7-10 from her blog and her unexpected dating dry spell that brought a range of emotions that Kaity is ready to share.

We walk through her dating experience with Mr. Hairline and zoom in on a beautiful exchange around the topic of women being valued for their individuality and not just their potential motherhood. We touch on Kaity's memorable "Waiting to Exhale" moment and the balance between holding onto a dead situation and bailing out too quickly.

Until next time, please remember that if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me, I invite you to drop your truth! I also invite you to enroll in the Nurturing My Self-Esteem Mini-Course or grab the Feminine Identity Bundle.

Time Stamps:

• [4:03] - Kaity joins me today, sharing updates on her 100 Dates in Houston.


• [10:12] - I discuss the support prompt from date number seven.


• [12:20] - I explore the intersection of womanhood and gender roles.


• [14:19] - Kaity explains how she took initiative and broke tradition.


• [17:16] - Kaity challenges traditional passivity in dating.


• [20:55] - It's important for women marrying later to be valued beyond just potential motherhood.


• [23:43] - Kaity finds relief in communication.


• [26:34] - Kaity reflects on her date having admitted to seeing other women.


• [27:53] - How does one navigate the balance between avoiding wasted time and giving someone a chance?


• [30:16] - Balancing conflicting feelings, Kaity finds solace in patiently observing and avoiding hasty judgments and decisions.


• [32:23] - I reflect on “He's Just Not That Into You,” contrasting hope and disappointment.


• [34:24] - Kaity resists old habits, embracing discomfort, and adopts a "wait and see" approach.


• [36:40] - In the context of women's empowerment, I explore the impact of dating behaviors on others' feelings.


• [39:48] - Kaity highlights the significance of timely communication for maintaining a meaningful connection.


• [41:23] - I discuss managing expectations around response times and the role of open communication.


• [43:56] - Hear an example involving missed with my husband, highlighting differing expectations on responsiveness.


• [45:20] - Kaity emphasizes the importance of responsive communication, reflecting individual needs for connection.


• [50:59] - Kaity notes the importance of maintaining excitement and depth in communication.


• [53:20] - Kaity reflects on two emotional conversations, noting the challenge of balancing self-assertion and grace in mature communication.


• [56:13] - Kaity's journey hits a milestone in her empowerment and self-commitment.


• [1:02:39] - Kaity faced disappointment when attempts to deepen the connection fell flat.


• [1:05:34] - Kaity had to reassess the connection's viability due to frequent dissatisfaction with communication efforts.


• [1:07:05] - Kaity navigates confusion in Mr. Hairline's attachment style, identifying it as a fearful-avoidant pattern.


• [1:09:37] - Kaity values consistency in text responsiveness, acknowledging her needs without deeming them needy.


• [1:11:11] - Seasons come and go, and Kaity is embracing the end of a dating season.


• [1:14:45] - Female listeners are advised to view relationship challenges as passing moments.


• [1:16:07] - I close by emphasizing navigating challenges together, avoiding person-centered blame, and highlighting conflict resolution's role in building intimacy.

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Literature & Links Mentioned

Her Dating Dry Spell Blog Post {+ Episode Guide}